3 out of 5 Playa Relationships Fail
It's no secret that Burning Man is a hotbed of love and lust.
Every year, thousands of Burners come together in the desert to share their passion for art, music, and each other. But while many relationships start at Burning Man, the sad truth is that 3 out of 5 fail. So what's causing these relationships to go up in flames?
One likely culprit is the "playa persona." Burners often adopt a different persona on the playa, one that's more outgoing, adventurous, and free-spirited than their everyday selves. This can make it difficult for couples to navigate the transition back to the real world, where they may not be as comfortable with each other as they were on the playa.
"Sometimes you meet someone at Burning Man and it feels like you've found your soulmate," says Burner and relationship expert, Dusty Heart. "But then you go back to the default world and realize that you don't have as much in common as you thought."
"I thought I'd found my perfect mate," said Pete Playa, "but when we got back, I discovered that her enthusiasm for mindless navel gazing was just something she did at the Burn. What a let down."
Another issue is the "Burning Man blues." After a week of nonstop partying and adventure, many Burners experience a letdown when they return to their everyday lives. This can put a strain on even the strongest relationships, as couples struggle to readjust to their normal routines.
"There's a reason they call it 'post-playa depression'," says Dusty Heart. "It's hard to come down from the high of Burning Man and return to the real world. That can be especially tough for couples who have to navigate that transition together."
"I tried to keep the spirit alive," said Sparkle Shroomsbury, "but no amount of caffeine and powdered rooster beak could keep me going."
Of course, there are other factors at play as well. Burners may realize that they're not as compatible as they thought, or they may simply drift apart over time. And let's not forget the classic Burning Man relationship problem: the dreaded "camp drama."
"Camp drama can be a real relationship killer," says Dusty Heart. "Whether it's disagreements over who's doing the dishes or who's getting more attention from other Burners, these little issues can really add up and put a strain on even the strongest relationships."
While many relationships start at Burning Man, the sad truth is that 3 out of 5 fail. Whether it's due to the playa persona, post-playa blues, camp drama, or a combination of factors, it's clear that Burning Man relationships can be a tricky business. But don't let that discourage you from trying. Who knows? You might just find your playa soulmate after all.